It's been just over two months since Dad died. This week was tough for me. I found myself thinking of him often, wondering if I've done him justice in my grieving. I've re-lived every moment of those last days of his life over and over and over again in my head. I don't want them to go away. Ever.
Did I show enough love, care, appreciation? Was I tender enough? Was I patient enough? Could I have sat next to his side more? Should I have done anything differently?
I find myself trying to remember his smell or his voice. A joke he used to tell. I wish I could sit by his side again in front of the TV. I wish I could find more photos of me and him.
Sometimes I wake in the dead of night and he is the one on my mind. That's good, I believe. I don't wish away the lack of sleep. Instead I breathe deeply the closeness that I feel to him during those dark, quiet hours and wish there were more.
A hard part about grieving? I'm not where he was in the day by day activities. I'm on the other side of the world. I can't walk through the front door and be reminded that he's gone. It feels like I'm just traveling, and he is back home with mom where he should be.
I like missing Dad. It's a good thing. I am so lucky and blessed to have had this man to call my dad.
Interesting that you chose this week to post about "missing Dad".
ReplyDeleteThe Roundhouse Gang (Den's railroad club) gathered at our house on Wednesday to honor Dennis. 20+ men and me sat around for almost 3 hours swapping tales, watching slides, etc. Dennis loved to host the gang social.
Tomorrow another Mass will be intended for Your Dad. We are grateful for all the prayers!